For the record, and I'll answer my own question in more detail later, I don't "not identify," either, most of the time. I identify as "andro," as I feel that psychologically I fall towards the middle of the gender spectrum. Which is confusing and invisible, too. But more on this later.

Personally I see nothing gained by women, straight or lesbian, emulating male culture. In other words, I'm not a feminist so I can become a man. Elevating the female spirit in society to an equal level with the dominating male spirit is what feminism is actually about. The genders are not the same and never will be. Equality doesn't mean sameness, it means same treatment under the law. Same respect within society. Equal opportunities.
That being said, butch identities may call out louder and stronger (emulating a man's voice) and gain more attention in society. But a Butch identity is certainly not MORE lesbian, or superior to a femme identity. It just is what it is.

I dress and act in a way that I think is androgynous leaning toward butch, but some people tell me that they think I dress/come across as femme. I don't think they're telling me that I identify as femme; I don't think they care about that; they only care about how I appear to them. I also think that these people see anything other than full male drag on a woman as femme.

When I do dress femme, I feel like I am in drag. It's not a matter of consciously rejecting anything - it feels like the way oil and water naturally separate, presumably without hostile feelings toward each other. :-)

I wouldn't say my gender identity "goes beyond" my body parts. I identify as a woman and comfortably have a female body, but I believe that a specific gender is less important in my list of self-identities than it is for many people. And there's the above business about feeling that "femme" clothing isn't my clothing; if that is genderqueer, then I am. This is all natural to me; the only part I had to consciously work on is to understand that not identifying as "femme" doesn't mean there's something wrong with my gender identity. I also had to work on deciding that people who do identify as, and appear, "femme" aren't harming me and aren't somehow buying into the patriarchy.

I'm not sure how this affects my life. I suspect it reduces the number of men who are attracted to me, and may increase the number of women who are, but I can't do a controlled study. :-)

Is WHB dead?

Boys have a penis and girls have a vagina.

"Feminine energy"? Gimme a break.

I have really struggled with this myself - I have recently been doing research on fairy tales and feminism/post feminism for a story I am writing and the more I study the angrier I get at society for the brainwashing it does and at woman for their part in accepting it.
Recently, I have questioned a lot of what I do. I felt guilty every time I put makeup on because I am buying into the media hype that says I have to look a certain way. What I eventually decided was that I needed to look at why I do things. Why do I wear makeup or heels or hose or skirts? Then once I had figured that out - I rejected all of the things I was doing because someone else told me I needed to. Now, for the most part, I wear what I want to wear. I like a lot of clothes that society finds acceptable and for work I stick with that... at home and hanging out with friends I wear what whatever I want. If you change who you are - even if it is just your physical appearance - to fit into a certain niche then you aren't being true to yourself. I think the real challenge is to be true to yourself and to not let society (whether mainstream, lesbian, or other) tell you who you have to be. Find out who you are underneath all the programming and accept and make peace with it.
Sarongs are comfy so I wear those - but so are boxers and bear skin so I go around in those a lot also. I have just signed up for kung fu lessons but I also enjoy ballroom dancing. Sometimes I like to be dominant in sex and sometimes I like to be passive. I am all over the traditional gender spectrum but I don't really care. I am happy and proud of who I am and what I have accomplished in my life. I fit into a category of one - I am just me. If others can't classify me I don't really care because I can.
I think your question is more about personal identity than gender identity - about labels and stereotypes - maybe you should just respond to those who label you femme that you don't really personally identify with that and leave things there... If you have to put a label on yourself find something nice and vague that tells something but not the specifics (like the equivalent of being agnostic to religion - I don't like any of the available labels for religion and saying I agnostic has saved me a lot of grief from Catholic co-workers who don't object to my ideas as much as they might a label such as pagan) and then if people want to know more they can ask for specifics. This will at least lead to a discussion about the right things rather than having to back track to get rid of preconceived notions associated with specific labels.